NYGal we all know it is very hard not to pursue at times, take a breath and step back to look at the great progress you have made! I see DB as a workout sometimes for your mind. It can get tiring and a pain to want to do it all the time, but when you do you are strengthened. And pursuing is like cheating on that workout/ diet. It's not helping you get stonger its a set back.
I see how much stronger you are now and it's inspiring. Keep up the amazing progress.
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.