Why did I confront her? She needed to know that I knew and that I would not allow her to stay in our house if she chose to continue with the A. I technically couldn't kick her out (at least not in my state) but she left. I simply couldn't stand the thought of her staying in our house if the A was ongoing. I don't know how anyone could put up with that but I guess a lot of people do. I also knew that she intended to separate in the coming weeks anyway. She hadn't told me but I had figured it out on my own while snooping. Despite all the pain it has caused, I'm glad I know and I'm glad I confronted her. I honestly think it would have been easier for her to walk away from our M permanently if she had been able to keep it a secret. Now she has to be honest with herself in what she has done in our M and become accountable for that. She may not and choose to still walk away but she knows that I know and has to live with that for the rest of her life. I actually never wanted her to leave. I was incredibly hurt and devastated but I didn't want to separate. I wanted to work on our R because I love her. I chose her to be my partner for the rest of my life. And when I chose her, I chose to accept the good and the bad. We celebrate the good and we work through the bad. I'm still willing to work on it but she has to decide that's what she wants too. Right now, she's decided she needed to separate and I have no control over that.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
