Julie the reconcilation process is like figuring out the meaning of life.
You may actually miss the point of it because you were focussed on the destination and not the journey.
Reconcilation is process of coming together. Like life it requires an open attitude and heart and curious and enquiring mind, an ability to be in the now and to take the good and leave the bad. Be prepared to be surprised the other person may not have the same thoughts, feelings and beliefs they once had. A beginners mind is required.
FO has given you some great advice. Collaboration with no agenda on a certain outcome.
I guarantee you Julie if you push for answers from H he will give them to you and likely they will catch in your throat.
If explore conversations and curiosities you might well be surprised. I feel that your H is more open than you think.
PS; Read back over your posts and watch how H responds to your emotional tone and energy. You might find a pattern. And more "I feel - It feels good when, it doesn't feel good when, I would like to feel, I don't want to feel " from you. He seems to like it when you are bit more in your heart than your head. Just an observation. I could be wrong!! Other Fo's statements are awesome and impressive!
