In the mean time, I am taking online defensive driving course as he is one paying car insurance. He yelled about this the other day, especially since I am the reason the rates are up. He didn't tell me to take this course, but it is the right thing for me to do.
I know it's not the same as landing a second job but I hope he sees the effort.
It's actually easy to take course and write on these forums
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015