V- Intel sounds better then snooping. I will remember that lol.
Pink- I am putting it to rest for now. Promise.
He confuses me, sometimes he acts like he needs to figure things out and other he is saying he definitely wants a divorce and he is done with me. Every time he says he wants the divorce I start thinking it is more and more real and happening and bring myself down.
Yes he said he wants to wait until I have a job, and school etc and at least 6 months. He got into an argument with his dad even because his dad said if he is so certain he should file and let me move on with my life and he told his dad no, he will take as long as he needs to before we do it.
I agree, I feel like I was starting to find myself and now I have dug myself into a bigger hole of not knowing who I am and getting lost. I let this last week with him keep talking about the D make me loopy.
My nails actually look awful today LOL. They are gross and chipped, I should fix that today. I have been putting it off for the last 2 days. The kids are good, they are happy. We are having a Vday party at d5 school tomorrow. I am the class mom but s3 and d5 both get to go to the party. I have turkey, crackers, cheese, cupcakes for them and all the other parents are sending things in as well. It SHOULD be a great morning before nap time!
H is suppose to be off all weekend but he has not told me his weekend schedule and I am not asking. I actually have been wanting to take the kids to the zoo or kids museum in orlando. We haven't gone in so long and even if it is long drive it would be fun.
Since our separation we have done nothing fun with the kids. Not really, we usually have year passes to theme parks and always on the go with them. They have been stuck at home bored for weeks on end. We have had year passes to legoland, seaworld, disney etc. We ALWAYS have fun with them.
I really think I want to take them somewhere Sunday- Monday. Depending on when H works, if he works on Vday I think I might drive 2 hours to the big zoo. It is bogo to go so 42$ for 3 or 50$ for 4 tickets to the zoo, plus unlimited train rides,and extras etc etc. I could ask a friend or one of my sisters if they want to come on a free adventure with me!
I do think I need a small get away. I have no school, the kids are off, It would be a very nice way to spend valentines day this year. Of course if he wants them he can keep them but them maybe I will go out on an adventure with myself.
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Think about a 180 that he does not know. For example. If you get a text, don't just ignore it. Give sometime and then answer him with some fun. There is anything fun you guys had when you were at the start of your R. Bring it up in a very small scale.
Like a smiley face, or a tiny quote w/a little cat, bird, dog. Make it fun. Remind him how it was in a very discrete way.
If he calls, you may not answer him. Once you decide to answer, be prepare to not let him talk first. Start telling him about something silly like: Oh! H, you won't believe but our S was eating ice cream and asked for a 2nd one, I couldn't believe this kid can eat so much! HAhahaha!.
Or maybe something else that is fun. Don't go to "about us" subject. I mention the kids because it is for both of you to have fun. It is also a reminder of the family you built together.
No straight words, just a general thing, talk, to make things less heavy. To remind him that life can be fun as a family.
I took this advice today. I tried it, and actually had better results then a- ignoring him or b- being short with one words like I have been. I am not reading into it at all but it was different.
H- Hey How was class? Me- It was great! I have to go back another day, but I had one on one today all day while the rest of the class did book work. H- That is really good, did it help? Me- Yeah I feel super confident on how I am doing now. Your advice on how to memorize the steps really helped H- Mhmm see! I always knew you could do it
Seems a little better then H- How was class? Me- Fine
