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[melweb]

Geez. I did not realize it has been so long since I have posted. I guess that is a good thing(?). I have been busy with orientations and paperwork regarding new job. I am excited to get started for sure!!

Thanks TxHubby. I did address the on-line dating site issue. During date nite...yikes, in a non confrontational way. Credit cards/bills/debt had come up in conversation, and I said "oh, by the way, I saw this on x card and was not sure if that was something you wanted to continue." After an uncomfortable giggle, he said he thought he cancelled that, said he did it like 2 days after he said ILYBNILY. I said "Welll?" I joked about it a few more times, quoting some of his profile description, then let it go.
He cancelled it the following morning.

kyrie.. I am really not sure if he had a PA or not. I do not think so as there is no unaccounted for time, late work nights, disappearing on the weekends, with the exception of two trips that I am aware of three hours north of here. So maybe a one night (or two, I guess) stand. But I really really really feel like an EA is happening. I cannot prove or disprove, as I have no access to his phone, his email etc.
He guards his phone like he is in the CIA, sets it face down when he's not on it (HAHA), switches off when I walk in--all really super suspicious stuff. It has come up in convo, and he says he does not want me to get the wrong idea. I told him I that I already have the wrong idea, because of the way he is acting. I feel like I cannot push this issue as he has already told me that he is keeping these new "friends" and that he will do whatever it takes to be happy, "at all costs."

I will look into any assistance that my employer has regarding counseling. I do not remember it coming up in the orientations, but it doesn't hurt to ask.