NYGal: Still Trying to GAL

[SciDad]

I'm probably in the minority here, but I'd be tempted to check in with her. But it would need to be clear that you're not checking in because you want a relationship - you're checking in because you care about her as a human being.

If a person you just met told you what she texted you, how would you react? That should be your guide. Respond to her like you would anyone else. But (and this is the tough part) respond with no expectations. No thoughts of getting back together. No thoughts of doing it to keep the road back to you open. No thoughts of how much it would hurt if she still chose the OW over you. Compassion without strings