You're hoping too much for your own well-being I do want you to hope, but more so I want you to focus.
You've noticed subtle shifts, which means your shifts need to be just as subtle, if not more so. Do not push or pursue just yet. You need to give it enough time to see if she really is turning it all around. Trust her actions, not her words.
I absolutely agree, and I'm working on remaining detatched. What makes it worse is that although I try not to react too much to the little signs and shifts I see, I'm not really a very good poker player, especially with something that is as important to me as this. So I'm sure I telegraph my thoughts directly to her...
Actually, the only signs I have are actions - I haven't talked to her specifically about our relationship in I'm not sure how long. We talk about everything else, but I don't want to talk about "us" until she is ready and has dealt with her issues. I'll know when it's time when she brings it up
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It is especially critical at this time to stay the course with GAL, 180s, detachment.
Your W has a tremendous amount of her own work to do. She could be temp checking you or testing the waters of returning to the MR itself. If you haven't before, check into one of sandi's many posts explaining he WAW mentality when it comes to potential R. Keep the path open to her, but don't cash in your chips just yet.
I am continuing to GAL and give her space, but remaining accessible. It's a tough dance to master, but it seems to be working. No reason to change the formula now that I'm finally seeing results
Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12; S10 and S6 BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015 EA dissolved 12/2016
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou
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