If this is his second or third A that might be the case. OMW may decide no more. That's always a risk when telling OPS (other persons spouse). We often hear tell the OMW or OWM and it's not something I think is a good idea. It's often said they have the right to know, firstly it removes their right to not know, they may already know and are DB, it's in the best interest of the LBS to keep the OP R in play.
Sounds like he told my W he loves her and wants to be with her.
Plan B, it might be WW knows an OM like this isn't a good bet. If they will do it with you then they will do it to you.
Part of me wants her to go down that road and see how ugly it will end up for her. I'll be fine.
You are angry, calm down.
Since we are broke finances are not a big deal.
It is even more of a big deal in that case.
I have money that is my dads that we were holding in case he goes in a nursing home. Even better news is it's invested through my wife's brother. I might pull it out and give it to my brother who I can trust.
Not your cash and you have a duty of care in this. Get a professional adviser involved, they will recommend a good arrangement with tax effectiveness. That's my area so I know that you can have legal issues with duty of care failures.
Plus my dad isn't doing well and If he passes there is quite a bit of money. I might just have my brothers take that too and get later.
My recommendation involve a professional, you don't want WW staying just because their is the prospect of wealth. I hope your dad has the longest and best of health and is part of your life for as long as possible.
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Straight thinking for you. Well done on keeping MBR. Your WW may get angry in response. You stated your boundary, she was not transparent about OM. She gave you reassurances that were illusions. You have every right to enforce your boundaries.
Stay well and calm
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
