B's 10-Week Bootcamp

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I have nothing else to do right now...so...I'm going to do this:

Sunday:

Me: I was actually foolishly hoping that after my phone call to you last Sunday things still had a chance of working out.

WW: Not anymore. Because now you've made me despise you. Congratulations. If you would have just let me keep S(9) on Saturday night.

Me: Right. That's what did it. I know enough now that is complete BS.

WW: I told D(15) her concert is off because you won't allow them to go to New Orleans. She is very upset.

Me: Loving mother of the year.

WW: Since you've ruined our plans of going, and I tried to make it work, you will be responsible if she goes or not. You'll have to buy the tickets. The concert comes here in June too. It's on you.

Me: Uhh...no. That's not how it works, and I didn't say they couldn't go, you decided that's what I said. I said I wanted my nights.

WW: Will you be in New Orleans to get your nights? If you say no, then you've ruined the trip.

Me: Again, you are the one setting ultimatums and being inflexible.

WW: No, you're being unflexible, not letting me have S(9). I will make no further action trying to bring the kids to New Orleans. But, you will not be allowed to take them if you want to go...I want my nights.

Me: Okay. But that's your decision and completely separate from anything I've said.

WW: No. It's yours.

Me: The nights can be re-arranged...you are just unwilling.

WW: Can I have them in New Orleans? Oh! Good. Can we re-arrange tonight and let me have S(9) all night Saturday? I'm very willing to re-arrange.

Me: Lol

WW: I'm looking for an answer. Ok. So I take it you won't let me bring the kids to New Orleans. YOU take the fallout and responsibilities of getting D(15) to this concert. I was willing, but shut down.

WW: I'm not moving to New Orleans anytime soon, by the way.

Me: Because you're probably sleeping with somebody else already.

WW: Nope. I left you because of you. This exchange right here says everything about the kind OF person you are...SELFISH! You would rather keep the kids inn your small little apartment then let them go and have fun inn New Orleans for a week with my parents. That's selfish. The kids have no other relatives.

Me: All I've said is I want my even split with the kids...you are making it into me not allowing them to go to New Orleans.

WW: And you're trying to keep them from their only relatives they have - that's selfish!!! You aren't, are you? F*** New Orleans for the summer! If you go, I won't let u take them. I NEED MY nights.

Me: I really don't even know what you are talking about...you're not making any sense.

WW: I figured you couldn't keep up.

Me: One day maybe you'll be able to see that you can't discuss anything without slinging insults.

WW: Its okay. This is where the plan stands as of right now: you have said you will not let the kids go to New Orleans without getting your nights. So you are responsible for the concert that D(15) will miss in New Orleans. I will not be taking the kids to New Orleans over the summer and you will not be taking them to New Orleans over the summer.

Me: Not the truth.

WW: What is the truth? Will you let me take them without getting your days? Yes or no.

Me: No, the kids need time with their father.

WW: Then what I stated above is the truth. You're now in charge of D(15) and the concert tickets.

Me: Not the truth. You are manipulating and twisting things to get what you want without consideration of the kids or their father. Typical.

WW: Bu*ls*it. Can they go?

Me: Of course. But the kids deserve their equal share of time with their father.

WW: Without me owing you days?

Me: See above. I've been consistent.

WW: Is this your way of getting out of paying for D(15)'s concert now?? I bet it is, Ha! Cheap *ss. You trying to look like the victim huh? You're the one that won't let the kids go to their grandparents for the summer. You did it last year, what's changed? You can better dad now? What a joke. And you're turning all religious, that's a fake joke too.

Me: You are really cracking.

WW: D(15) is sobbing in her room right now about not being able to go to NOLA and the concert. I told her to take it up with you. Note that you said you would not let them go without having your nights, so it is your fault.

***At this point I sent a text to my D(15):

Me: Don't listen to what WW is saying D(15).

D(15): Okay, she says we won't go to New Orleans.

Me: I know. And...you may not...but that isn't because of me.

D(15): Okay.

***Then a couple of last texts between WW and I:

Me: Go back and re-read these messages. Starting with mine. You are so full of anger. You want out and away from your marriage and family at all costs.

WW: No, I love my kids, above all else. I want them 100%. If we go to court, that's what I'll be fighting for.

Me: I just can't believe who you have become. I don't even know who you are anymore. I actually thought you were considering how to 'work it out' last Sunday...boy was I wrong.



And that was the end. After she dropped the kids off and I took them to watch the Super Bowl at some friends house.