Yes, he has unresolved issues from his childhood. His parents divorced when he was 11 or 12 and his dad was abusive to his mom. His dad is now on his 4th wife and H has no relationship with him at all.
Journaling:
Slow day today because of all the snow we got slammed with.
H just stopped by to pick up some financial papers. He was on his way to see his lawyer. He was almost giddy. I don't know how many times I've heard him say, "I don't want to be married anymore." He just closed on his house yesterday and is all excited about it. I know this is the replay stage, but it is so hard to hear him. I just validated and told him I was excited for him too.
One thing that I worry about that I KNOW I shouldn't even be thinking about is OW that he had an EA with. She also works with us and H has daily interaction with OW daughter, and I have daily interaction with OW son. OW is now divorced and when H had the EA he said he was "helping" her through her divorce. I've constantly asked H if he's been in contact with her and he would say no. I believed him, but did find out later that he lied about it. I made a big deal about him lying because honesty is something that we've preached to our Ds. My coworkers ask if I think something is going on between them. I keep saying no, but maybe I'm being a fool. I need to stop thinking about what might happen in the future, and just concentrate on the now. I HAVE to remember that I can't control him, but only my own actions. DETACH, DETACH DETACH...
Nel
Me: 51 H:50 M: 28 years T: 31 years 4 Ds: 24, 22, 19, 17 BD Jan 2013 D filed Feb 2015 Papers pulled Aug 2015 D re-filed Jan 2016
