Already did some dumb things... Contacted OM spouse. Filled her in. Contacted her brother who she was lying too. Contacted her mom in Mexcio... Yeah... probably over reacted.... Ooops.. At this point I don't Fn care. She has lied to everyone. It's now on her. I will not try to show her my best self and win her back. That didn't work. I'm going with the 180... telling her this is the house her family lives in. This is the families house. Right now the family isn't her priority so she should probably leave until she can decide what her priorities are. I will not beg to have her back after all of this. I have been so good to her. This is on her now. I think odds are good she will just say she wants out and I don't see trying to stop her at this point. Sorry if that's not the DB way.
That other "180" you were doing rarely works. They don't really give a sh*t about your best self. This new 180 you're describing is the real one. The irony of it is that now that you're really done and you're the one who demands a divorce, now is when she'll really want you because she can no longer have you. If you really don't want her back at this point then don't fall for that because she'll get desperate and do anything. Wild crazy sex, whatever. BTW, go ahead and take her up on the wild and crazy sex, you deserve it, but don't let it cloud your judgment and I'd recommend safe sex since you're not exactly sure who all she's been with.
Contacted OM spouse. Filled her in. Contacted her brother who she was lying too. Contacted her mom in Mexcio... Yeah... probably over reacted.... Ooops.. At this point I don't Fn care. She has lied to everyone. It's now on her. I will not try to show her my best self and win her back. That didn't work. I'm going with the 180... telling her this is the house her family lives in. This is the families house. Right now the family isn't her priority so she should probably leave until she can decide what her priorities are. I will not beg to have her back after all of this. I have been so good to her. This is on her now. I think odds are good she will just say she wants out and I don't see trying to stop her at this point. Sorry if that's not the DB way. 