Sometimes we need to get ourselves into those big girls pants and tough up.
It hurts a lot, but more then that he is being very disrespectful. He may not want to share life with you anymore (and we will see about that), but you were and still are his wife, the mother of his children and for that alone he needs to respect you.
He left the house, so every single time he is there he needs to refer what he is doing to you. You don't need to yell on his face, neither say bitter words, but you need to make it clear that you want him to talk to you about anything he does that will affect or disturb your life.
You also see it very clear now why he wants to pay less child support and yet pay all your bills. I am sorry but you have a controlling H. He wants to have all the rights to tell you what you will do or don't.
He is being unfair, playing dirty games with your emotions, being extremely selfish and not saying a complete bastard for doing such things in such immature way.
Not saying that you will do it, but that's why many LBS serve their WAHs with the D papers... because things get a little out of hand and they think they can walk all over us any time they feel like it.
I am afraid that this is some crazy reaction he is having because you look confident, happy and is not really having a fit every time you see him. It's confusing him and he is probably determined to push your bottoms and have his justifications that "this is why I need to end our M, because you always blow on me this way, and blah, blah, blah".
Sweetie, you know your H better then us, you know what kind of talk you need to have to ask him to at least talk to you first and agree on anything he does around the house.
Now, don't despair about this. The WAS does insane things and try to justify to themselves that they are doing the right thing, taking the right decision.
Some do a lot worse and then later come with their tails between their legs and asking for forgiveness. You can be aware of what he is doing so you don't react in a negative way.
Be strong Red, you can do this. I actually took the pictures down myself. I refuse to have his pictures around to remind me of the SOAB.
Today he is doing this and you are crying, tomorrow you will be hanging pictures of all your accomplishments and maybe he will be the one crying. We all make mistakes and to regret them is even more painful.
Have your head tall, set your boundaries if you can. Little by little it will take shape and you will teach him how to respect you the way you deserve. It does not matter if he thinks it is right or wrong, it is not about him, it is only about you, your kids, your life.
