Yeah, I'm not a fan of your therapist right about now. If "it is one of the best things you could read right now", then they would know that your wife is not ready for a letter. You can do all the apologizing later on when your W would make a commitment back to the marriage.

Internet - cheeseless, controlling tunnel. You even stated yourself she will find a way around it. They always do.

LRT - Not likely going to be an option considering kids are in the home and she is there while you work. You WILL have interaction. Instead, focus on being distant and detached.

Money - Does she work? Why doesn't she? What specifically do you pay for?

Valentine's - Leave it. Don't push or pursue with trying to make something happen.

You, sir, are trying to push a square peg into a round hole. Let's refocus here. Time for some homework!!

Activity 1: What are you goals? They need to focused on you and not things like "Get her to hug me once per week." Instead, "I will try and validate my W at least once per day."

Activity 2: List your 180s. Think of the complaints she has given about specific characteristics of you. These could be things such as poor anger management to spending too much time working to not spending enough time with the kids to never folding laundry.

Post the answers here.

I get that you are hurting, baffled, and probably a bit frustrated. Your M seems to be going down the drain. Time to grab those bootstraps and get busy.


M: 8.5 T:10
Me:37 W:34 S:6

Retrouvaille and W moves back- 7/31/15
Piecing - 7/4/15 to present