1st time - Do I detach or keep showing her my best

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GoodDad - I certainly hope you haven't acted yet. Going to give you a little insight into the human brain here. We are not programmed to function off of high emotion and high intellect at the same time. They tend to be inversely proportional. Think of all the stupid things we do when we are angry, hurt, or first in love. That is you right now.

So sick. I really love my wife. But I can never recover from this. I really think I have to cut my losses and move on.

Yep, I said this in February of last year. Look where I am now. Look at sandi, Tx, all the others here who have recovered from this exact thing. I'm not telling you what to do. It is your choice, but remember that it doesn't necessarily mean it's the end. Really do some deep soul-searching and let your emotions calm before you make this final decision. Post here soon.