I can't imagine feeling how she's describing without wanting to change; can't help feeling like I failed for not acting differently or seeing the problem back then; and I can't understand why she didn't try harder to tell me / fix, and why I wasn't able to hear it when she did try to tell me...
YOU didnt break her and YOU can not FIX her.
US LBS's are codependent, fixers, enablers, conflict avoiders.
Those are the areas to focus on to FIX yourself.
When that happens then you will start to see more clearly your marriage and relationship.
Also please stick to one thread until you get to 100 posts.
