Divorce Papers

[TimR]

We did not have the talk. As per coach I reached out and offered and she text back that she didn't want to now. Later that night she proceeded to start sending me text about what a jerk I am and how I control and manipulate her. I validated and empathized and she complained she did not believe any of it. She then threatened and insulted.

This morning I text her that picked up the kid and took him to school because he missed the bus. I said I do not know why he called me and did not ask her (she is the one living in the house). I think he was afraid to ask. She in turn said it was because I was trying to turn him against her. I validated and said I could appreciate why she would feel that way, but she is his mother and a great one! I would never do that. She in turn started in about me stalking her (which I have not since I caught her cheating).

I am realizing she is changing her tactics now. She used to say stuff to invoke a reaction in me but if I validated and empathized she would calm and drop it. Now it seems to anger her just as if I would give her my old reactions. Thus I think my new plan needs to be detaching and not answering texts or calls if it appears she is trying to drag me into reactions.

Anyone experience this?? Any advice??