This too must pass. We might not know where things are heading specifically, but I am amazed at the personal growth and strength you have demonstrated through this ordeal. I am envious of your open conversations with your wife and you inspire me to be as open with my wife. Continue to listen and give her space - this is what she needs now.
As for hugging and kissing your wife and getting words of affirmation from her - relax. Give her the chance to feel things for herself. As introspective as you are I suspect you might also be able to see when things shift for your wife. But continue to kind and caring to everyone in your life, without looking for validation from your wife. This is how I think you'll become comfortable in your skin, and I think this is how you will experience even more personal growth.
Keep the faith - there is greater meaning to what is happening to you. But you need to remain open (and vulnerable) to experience it.
Me-38 W-38; T-15 M-12; S10 and S6 BD - July 2016; EA confirmed; confronted Aug 2015 EA dissolved 12/2016
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option - Maya Angelou
