surrealism is not my style

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When he was truly happy with me, I would get a bearhug. But his main love language was AOS. He knew himself so well, he often jokingly said, "give-giver, never take. That's me."

He would be happy making me a "special" coffee drink and bring it to me in the morning to show he cared. He'd wash my car. Vacuum once in awhile because "he found it relaxing" and knew I didn't.

He gave this to many people. He always helped people when they moved...even clients. He would mow our friends' lawns (riding mower) before a party. He loved to help people experience their first boat rides, teach them to water ski, help parents corral their kids on ski trips. He loved to organize trips, outings, and vacations. He loved to play bartender for all of our friends and man the barbecue. He made a fantastic tri-tip.

Even after we separated, he came immediately over to fix any problem at the house. He set up a pair of skis to fit my boots when I told him I was going to revisit skiing. He has bought me lunch at the hill and skied with me. He told his L that he wanted this to be "the nicest D she ever handled".

I am going on a ski trip weekend with my daughter, SIL, and her friends from high school and another set of parents that I know, but don't know well. H is going on a ski trip with "Bubbles'" family, as he used to be we) has for the past 15 years. Same resort as my group. He almost apologized for this, as our trip was planned in November and they just booked theirs 2 weeks ago. But that's where Bubbles' kids wanted to go. He has said we'll probably ski together. He seemed slightly sad that he had invited our younger D and she couldn't go. Anyway, I plan on having a good time, but not sure how much interaction I'll have with H...though he does like our D's friends.

180s? Have FUN. Be part of the group...participate. Make an effort to be helpful. Interact joyfully with Bubbles' family and D's friends. Appreciate his efforts that I see.

Any other suggestions would be appreciated. I don't have any idea how much actual interaction I will have with H. Trying hard to not pursue. LRTing somewhat (not initiating contact). I do have to go to his office to exchange some things with staff members today. Who knows.