asambandha

[SciDad]

The thing is,"Tu es pour moi la plus belle" means "You are to me the most beautiful". It is how I feel, how your husband felt. My wife may not like the way she looked in the photo but to me, no one compares. I may not be the sharpest pencil in the cup but when I truly believe my wife is the most beautiful, she should live with it. I'm sorry if this seems harsh, if it is, it is directed to my wife. I worked really hard on those frames. I hand picked the wood to have the best grain pattern. I cut the wood in such a way that the grain flowed, lined up and continued all the way around the frame. The joints were perfect, the cuts were perfect, the messages were heart felt. Now it sits at the bottom of a drawer. I will give it to one of my daughters if we get divorced.

Mu, I had a similar experience with a note I gave my wife. I'd been leaving her what I thought were inspirational notes every few days because I could tell she was down about work, her body and her life. My intention was just to let her know that I was there and that I still had feelings for her despite everything. The gist of what I wrote was that she was gorgeous and that she should never forget that I thought so.

However, instead of feeling inspired she got angry at me for writing such a thing to her. Initially I was confused and hurt, but I've grown to realize that she simply wasn't ready to hear that from me then. I didn't know it at the time, but she was deep in an EA and certainly had no good feelings toward me. When I wrote that message, it was heart felt and true, but my wife took it as stifling and controlling. Looking back I see it for what it was - pursuit, which is why it didn't work.

But here's the thing - she still has the note. It's in a little box with all the other notes I've sent her. I think she will some day come to look at those notes in a new light once she fully returns to me. Or maybe she won't - it's her decision to make.

My point is this - keep the picture and frame. You don't have to look at it every day or even ever at all, but keep it as it represents a piece of your heart. If your wife returns to you she will appreciate not only the initial gift and sentiments, but also the fact that you cared enough to keep it. And if she never comes back I think giving it to your daughter will have equal meaning to your family. And that, to me, seems to embody the person you are. Strong, caring, and giving.

Stay strong brother, you are not as alone as you feel