I found with my D now 20 then 11 that listening to her through her Dads crises and abandonment was important and it helped her through it
I tried to listen to her pain..staying neutral and validating without putting her dad down she seems very happy in her life today to me despite the fact of very little communication and relationship with her dad hang in
while not perfect, I believe strongly that one consistent loving and available parent is enough to get them through
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow