I'm being encouraged to go on one of those internet dating sites, but I'm not sure. People tell me that this may encourage W to think quicker about coming back, but my feeling is that this may well push her away further and cement her ideals.
There is no way to know how W will react, so I would not base your decision on what you think it may do to/for her or your relationship with her.
For me, I was not ready to start dating until I knew that I would not give up my relationship with the new person if XW ever turned around.
That said, as far as I remember, nobody has filed for any actual divorce in your case. So, are you actually ready to move on...?
