In House S (7)

[vise82]

Hey Terrible day,

I picked up my oldest son from school and W brought home youngest from work where her parents dropped him off.

W left for the groceries store and I looked after the kids and fed them dinner, W took a long time. She came back agitated and was on S7 for any comment he made then got on me for not backing her up.

We all watched TV before they went to bed, I had both boy on me and W sat on a separate chair. I put them to bed then started to watch a movie by myself in a separate room.

W comes down and is on me about not getting back to her about S. It had been a month she says since she asked me to talk about it and I have done nothing. I validated but that ran out as she started to ask specific questions abut what I wanted to do, I said I cant decide unless I know where she was going to live. She wouldn't tell me. and said that I cant force her to live somewhere.

I asked if she could tell me the city she plans on living . She could tell me. She threatened to just bring me to court if I couldn't agree with her. I took my ring off and threw it saying is that what you want? She didn't even flinch.

My lawyer said I shouldn't agree to anything right now until my W sees a lawyer. So I said I wasn't going to agree about anything with out talking to a lawyer.

She got angry and started to make me the villain for not wanting to do the divorce easy and low cost. I said I am not the one that wants this, If you want this you take it to your lawyer.

There was also me telling her to leave and that I don't want to talk about this now. She wouldn't leave and call me childish for not wanting to talk. I get up and leave and she follows me and say why would you want to keep living like this, we are not good together married. I said there are a lot of things we are good at together. And there are things that need work but it takes two to work on it. What could you change to make it a better MR? she didn't answer. She kept on say that three years ago I didn't want to work on it so its over now. I said it took two to get where we are right now. She said she doesn't care who caused it, she then took all the blame and said it changes nothing.

I also mentioned that we cant keep trying to talk like this you in a door way standing there talking down to me trapping me in the room.

It is not good, I was having a good month, I asked what happened during going out to get groceries that changed your mood? She had no answer. She must have talked to someone. She just looked so ugly to me, I wanted to tell her that, but I couldn't.

Our life is what we make it and she has made this terrible situation and has no interest in making it better. I guess in her eyes she thinks S will make it better.

I also went a bit far and the topic of being friends came up. She was agreeing how good we are at co parenting but are no good at being husband and wife. And that we can continue being good friends and co parents to the kids. I told her if we are divorced I have no interest in being friends. She didn't like that and said that the courts will love hearing that.

I am thinking that I need to say that if more talk needs to be done we do it via email. I just cant talk to about this stuff with her, She know what buttons to push to get me angry.

I want to protect myself and use lawyers and she is so mad about that. I tried to tell her I have no choice, with what has happened in the past, and this being such a life changing thing that it cant be done any other way.

But I am the bad guy for wanting that. Divorce costs a lot of money and she is fooling herself to think otherwise. From my experience and she was part of it, if we go the least cost way , it could cost more later in life.

I left early for work this morning so I wouldn't have to see her this morning.