I absolutely love your insight. You actually offer much logical thinking and robust conversation.
LOL. Yes. I am comfortable with logical men because I grew up surrounded by boys! Boys that are very logical and emotionally intelligent and philisophical and best of all FUNNY. I feel like I can trust and grasp the honesty and directness of men who have no ulterior motives. ( My female friends are more like men in female bodies). They don't sugar coat and are not concerned with being liked. I actually appreciate that. IRL I would be very comfortable with the Larry David Esque type of conversation. Where you are called out and openly admit to some pretty morally corrupt thoughts and behaviors. I would trust it because it's honest.
I think I grasp on to what zues says because he is basically the only person that really stood up for my husband (and other husbands as well). When I tell my story i come across as this sweet, innocent single mom who was left by her husband and it is easy to side with me. Husband did do a lot of crappy things. Perhaps zues offers me an opinion that is easy for me to accept because deep down its what I want to hear.... That husband is not a bad guy. He is not an abuser or cheater. We don't have to divorce.
I do wish my husband was able to communicate with me better. He is a "mans man" and does not like to socially engage much. He likes to work on things. He is a logical thinker, but for some reason struggles to communicate. I had no problems telling him my needs (probably did this too much) he cannot explain what he is thinking or tell me how he feels but then seems angry when I question and don't know. I want him to just be direct with me.
I know I come across as compulsive but you don't know how much it relieves me to hear that you do not think my husband is having an affair.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
