The trouble is I have started to get racing thoughts. As going to sleep, she says tomorrow she will be looking at a place with the girls so would need time. She added if we wanted to do counselling. I said yes. She said she would cut contact with OM. Didn't confess to affair. I didnt ask either. And her last word was as I say this weekend you or I go. She is Ok with me being in Amsterdam. Of course how would counselling work? I can come at the day of councilling. I am so tired. Not sure what to do.
Me: 43, W: 43 M: 16, T: 18 D - 7, D - 7 ILUB: 26 August 2014 Still living together
Breathe. Focus on your breathing. Slow and methodical. With practice you'll be able to activate the vagus nerve and the parasympathetic nervous system to slow your heart rate and "calm your nerves".
Some people count or have a mantra as they breathe. Others pray. Do what you have to so that all you focus on is each breath. Sweet dreams.
Me:44 W:38 T:10.5 M:7.5 D:3 BD: 7/2015 W moves out of MBR: 9/2015 WW files for D: 2/8/2016
I feel so bad. I don't know how to cope what to do.
It's normal to feel this way. I felt this way when my wife demanded separation. I literally felt like I was loosing my mind and I don't even suffer from depression. I'd wake up in the middle night with such anxiety about her being with another man and it would take me hours to get back to sleep. You will feel better, no matter how it turns out. My brother in law, who also suffers from depression and was recently separated, felt better once they lived in different homes. You will be okay.
M41 W39 D3 Open Marriage Request by W 6/15 BD 9/15 1st EA 10/15 2nd EA discovered: 1/16 I moved out: 1/16 2nd EA blew apart 2/16 PA 4/16 I've had enough, filing for D
Another day begins. Will she really see a new place? Would I need to do frequent visits to Amsterdam. But I stayed there for a year snf she found OM and I was away from them. Should I move out? Counselling and NC letter she promised to send.
Me: 43, W: 43 M: 16, T: 18 D - 7, D - 7 ILUB: 26 August 2014 Still living together
