So a few weeks past (after our separation started) I asked W if she wanted to join me and the kids at an upcoming event we go to every year and she said she had plans. Now she is acting like she wanted to go the whole time even though the convo was via text and I went back and made sure I wasn't crazy. Her way to bring it up was to was asking about logistics. I didn't buy her a ticket, just tickets for me and the kidos. Part of me wants to pretend I had bought the ticket for her, buy new tickets together and enjoy a family outing that we have a tradition of doing together. Another part says to say sorry, you said you didn't want to go so I didn't get you a ticket with us. When she brought it up I had a moment of weakness and kind of went along with it. I saw this as a positive thing, a small step forward inline with my relationship goal of doing something as a family 2-3 time a month and a chance to go out as a family in a situation where R stuff wouldn't come up. Any suggestions? These past few days she has been really cold and distant and was moving more of her stuff out of our home and now this. Talk about a roller coaster. Also, Valentines Day is this weekend....Trying to figure that one out too. My new therapist said I should put the ball in her court and ask her if it was ok to get her something or if she wanted to have dinner. I have only been to this new therapist a few times and they do have the DR book in their office. I think they just don't have a full understanding of the situation yet, so I am hesitant to follow their advice.
