Thank you for your input. I guess I have been blaming myself for her unhappiness. She feels I am controlling and get jealous. I guess i you hear something enough from someone yous start to believe it. I have to agree that I do have my times, but generally just when she wanted to behave like her single friends who are in their mid 20's. Working on my homework, time is short with the kids and gym and things. I know that I should make it my top priority and will do better. Currently seeing a new solution based therapist, and they have DR on their bookshelf. I asked them about the book and they said it was probably the best book I could read now, of course, they also recommended that I write my wife an apology letter.
Thoughts on writing the letter? It is so hard to write one without seeming like I am pursing. I have written a couple drafts but always end up feeling like i am weak for apologizing for getting mad at her about her actions.
