Let me preface my answer by stating that these are my opinions only. You take what you want from them.
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Would returning back to work full time be a request to be put on a list as a necessary step for working on a marriage?
In jims case, is quitting smoking a fair request?
Simply put, you are the one to determine that answer. Are you willing to go along with it? Is it something that you are completely against? What are your real, underlying reasons for saying no? Is it something you are willing to compromise, without compromising yourself, to save your marriage? Only you can answer that.
The flip side to this is whether or not the listed problems had anything to do with the breakdown of the marriage. Did Jim's smoking cause a significant amount of conflict or health issues? Is it a core issue or a grab for something they want? Does it compromise who you fundamentally are? Is it a reasonable request? Is it respectful? Does it break a stated boundary? These are the type of things to look for when determining whether or not the request is controlling.
What are YOU willing to do to save your marriage?
M: 8.5 T:10 Me:37 W:34 S:6
Retrouvaille and W moves back- 7/31/15 Piecing - 7/4/15 to present
