Squiggly,

I will try to find the post. It was a really insightful one.

Would returning back to work full time be a request to be put on a list as a necessary step for working on a marriage?

In jims case, is quitting smoking a fair request?

When does it become a way of controlling someone to do what they want. Kind of like "I'm not happy. I'm gonna leave. Then so they will do things my way I come back only if they agree to my terms".

I totally understand that fidelity, and transparency are necessary when there was an affair


Me: 42
H: 43
Twins age 5
Physically Separated 7/2015