Everything will work out in the end

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Rouky please, please, please hijack my thread! Nothing brings me a bigger smile than to look at my thread and see your name there. I hear you taking your share of the blame in the problems with you marriage but I hope you also recognize what you did right. You were loyal and you were a great mother. This I know from simply reading your posts. I am sure that you were many other wonderful things and it is unfortunate that your husband is willing to just throw it all in the trash. Like you my self esteem has been beaten down severely by my spouse and it is taking a while to build it back up. Other people besides your husband and my wife have opinions about us and they matter too. I feel like everyone loves you and sees you for the great lady that you are. Don't forget that and thank you for the great compassion that you have shown me and many others through this website.

Something else that I would like to address is your statement that you had let yourself go during the marriage. My wife completely let herself go after the baby was born and became enormous. She stopped wearing any makeup, never did anything with her hair and would only wear black. I told her every day how beautiful she was and never stopped trying to be affectionate with her. This is not because I am some sort of amazing husband but because I loved her in spite of anything. I found her beautiful and the first time that I ever saw her as unattractive until she became enraged over dividing of our assets. At that point she became someone whom I did not recognize and I didn't like it. I think your husband felt the same way at one time but succumbed to the temptations that are presented to all of us but some of us aren't tempted or we properly deal with it when we are.

I am proud of you for forging ahead and you remain an inspiration to all of us here. I hope your week is going well and that you have many smiles! God Bless you Rouky!