Hi Inpain It's frustrating I know. Everyone suggesting you to GAL, Go dim, go dark, set up boundaries. Do 180's, DB'ing, move on, disconnect.. etc etc etc.
how can you do this while you are still grieving and confused. Not everyone can just put on a straight face and move on. We are all different.
Thank you so much for this Irish! Reading all that long list of confusion is exactly right - it makes my head spin!
Originally Posted By: IrishM
Until you get through the stages of the left behind spouse, GAL is hard and setting boundaries are even harder to put in place because of the fear of upsetting H.
This is exactly how I'm feeling right now! I really feel like I need to enforce some boundaries for my own sanity but, as you say, I'm terrified to do so for fear it will push him further away, make him angry and think, "Fine, I'll go to a solicitor then!"
Thank you for the link, I will make it my next 'homework' task!
