WW hope to reconcile

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Ok....Took a bit longer than I hoped. W is pregnant and sick. Needless to say, S6 and I got her set up and then escaped for a little bit to a fun PlayPlace McDonald's to give her a good break.

You validating her concerns was great. Keep doing this. She is giving you a list of 180s to work on, and your responses matched them very well. Make sure you visibly do the work.

I also stated that I need to see actions from her in order to move forward with this.

Careful with this. As of yesterday your W was in a place where she thought she could do no wrong in this sitch. Do not push her away with making demands. It's ok if these come out as boundaries, such as when I told my W what transparency was when I stated it or when I said that I would only work on R if she went to Retrouvaille with me. One step at a time.

She agreed that she would come back once she knew that we have a transfer date for work.

She asked how we can stop D and we agreed that we send email to Ls at the same time when she comes this week to pick up the boys for visit.

I know you've been on the fence about the move. Are you fully ok with it? Same with stopping the D? Not telling you what to do. Just making sure.

I have other things to address with her such as the EAs with OMs and getting her to commit to a date she will come back.

Once again, don't push unless this a boundary. Furthermore, you really need to consider how much you need/want to know. I still do not know the total full details of my W's A. I don't need it. Others do.

I don't feel excited about this at all. I am very skeptical that this is potentially manipulation tactics.

Now to the part that gave me a red flag. You are going to be scared and suspicious, sure. I'd expect it, especially with the magical turn around your W gave today. It took me a couple weeks of temperature checking to start believing my W after she said it the first time (the first was not a full commitment). You need to watch for her taking action before giving her the full run of the farm.

I plan on suggesting we put something in writing if this goes south and she and I cannot rebuild the R so we can go our separate ways.

Did this come from your L? If not, this is very pushy and, depending upon her, enough for her to change her mind again.

Moving forward with a little hope and a lot of caution.

Yes. This. I know how badly you've wanted this. This is not a time for rash action, giving her the keys to the castle, or demanding everything all at once. If you guys are truly moving into Piecing, it will be just as delicate as the first part of your journey. To quote Wonka when I got into Piecing: "Don't stop DBing (or I will kill you)". Parentheses added for my interpretation of her words.