1st time - Do I detach or keep showing her my best

[Flight]

I don't know why I didn't think of this before. People talk about the 180 and about how to get their spouse back. The most accurate word is to "draw" your spouse back to you. You aren't pulling, they are attracted back on their own.

There was this story a long time ago I heard on NPR. Farmers were destroying the rain forest at an alarming rate in order to grow their food. And as they planted the same crops, over and over, in the same plot, they depleted the soil and had to cut down more trees in order to have new farmland. It was a vicious cycle.

Charity organizations came in and tried to educate the natives on how to properly rotate crops in the soil and use organic fertilizers. They tried to work with the local chiefs and witch doctors. Nothing they did worked. The people were reluctant to change.

So one of the foreign workers decided to go into comptetition with the native farmers. He quietly setup his farm and would go every week to local farm supply to get his supplies. He grew his crops and when they were harvested and sold, he planted different crops that would replenish the soil. He did all this without saying anything unless someone came to visit and wondered how he was doing what he was doing. After a while, the other farmers and leaders noticed that with his small plot of land, he was constantly out-producing them with less effort. After a while, they came to HIM to find out how they could do the same thing. He drew them towards him by example. I think the 180 is similar.