Thanks everyone. When I got home last night she told me someone at her work quit and she had to go into her office and put things together to take care of her meetings so she didn't come home until after I had the kids in bed. She is wanting to talk about finances and splitting our joint accounts up and also about d without lawyers (at this moment I can't think of why I would do any work for something I don't want). She said she didn't have time to get the financial things together. I said that was fine and I was tired and going to bed. She looked terrible and had a headache but started talking about her work goals and how much she was going be making next year and how busy she was going to be. I was thinking and didn't say anything for a few seconds and then she said "I don't know why I'm telling you since you don't even care." I told her I did care and I wanted her to be successful. I was really supportive before all this as well. Then she said "I just don't want you to think I'm dependent." I told her I certainly didn't think she was a dependent person and that it was quite the opposite. I then said I was really tired and was going to bed. She said she had to go back into the office tonight when I get home.
I certainly needed a break to think. I was starting to question myself and what was going on, if it was really all me. Then I had to remind myself how she isn't the person I knew (no reason to list it all), and how I've been willing to own up to my faults work on anything and everything to no avail.
Job, I was thinking about what you said about wanting me to kick her out or leave. I've been wondering about that for awhile. She was acting really weird when she got home that night. What I said above about her expecting a reaction like her parents made me think she wanted a bad reaction so she could run. I never would have given her a reaction like her parents even though she's been able to get my personal worst out of me though all this. When I didn't give her what she expected that night she was surprised.
Cristy, I've been thinking about giving coaching a try (I've questioned a little of my counseling), but it would be difficult right now financially with the counseling I'm doing and w. Things are all over the place. Hopefully they will be in order soon.
