Being in Limbo is KILLING ME. I want to ask her to go to therapy, I want to ask her to fight for our marriage. I want to try so many things. Being separated has been such a drastic thing for me that I can finally see my faults and the things that I can do better in our marriage. I just feel like I should fight for our marriage and not just sit on the bench and wait to see where the chips fall.
I'm not sure how you see "fighting for your marriage. DBing is fighting for your M. It may be a new way to do it, but no mistaking that it is easy.
I am glad you are able to see what you need to do in the MR, and you may be eager to get started. Unfortunately, your WW is not in the mood to save her M. As of right now, the two of you are like trains running on two separate tracks. For whatever reason, she started engaging into something that gave her a thrill. It took her away from boredom and she became addicted, plus this opened a doorway to other avenues like flirting with other men.
Since you are separated, there is little you can do about her online activity. Unless you are paying for the Internet service, then I suppose you could have it turned off. Are you paying her expenses since the separation?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
