Hope is not a Strategy- It looks done

[keefa]

I'm having same issues. Although I try not to believe a thing STBX said, she's claimed that her L has told her a happy mummy is the most important thing and the affair, disruption and absolute lack of any commitment what so ever to work on the M is all that is being shown. I have taken many times to talk calmly to my boys telling them this is not what I wanted. This is not what I like to happen. They understand I think. She has said to me a few times they will be better off. This was a low blow intended to hurt me as I think she is jealous of the relationship I have with my boys so this gives me a barometer of my actions. my STBX is 'pretending' she is doing right by them. But sadly I had a W that was never ever wrong.