When the goal is positivity

[JulieH]

He wants me to return to work full time and feels that with that added income I could afford my own apartment. This can be done. But we would be not able to afford an area with a good school district. It would also require additional expense of child care. (He assumes grandparents will babysit free while I work) I Would see the kids a lot less because my job requires some evening hours.

In counseling, he would tell me I should switch jobs and even professions. (I went to school a long time to do what I do. I have a license and a skill set and i enjoy it) because he felt salary was not high enough. My salary is decent, but not for the area we live in. Any other state not in the surrounding area I would be fine. I have absolutely no other skill set, so his demands were unreasonable and frusturating,

my income full time combined with child support would leave me with less then his income full time and my part time income combined. When we had that combination the argument was that we could not afford to live and save, which is why we moved in with my parents for a year.

I am in all honesty, very confused by his budget and I have been for a long time. He has not been transparent with me. I know he earns a decent salary. I know that he has no real debt. I don't know why he has nothing saved. I don't understand why he says we cannot afford a place unless I return to work full time. It does not make sense numerically.