You're not whining! You're thinking and protecting yourself
Do nothing and 180? Both. Really think about that. Do nothing is more about not trying to fix her or push the issue. 180s are for improving yourself, which you can, and always should, be doing while "Doing Nothing".
Your wife is a scared little birdie in the palm of your hand. The more you push or try and fix, the more likely she is to flit away. This is why I stressed that you create the environment that promotes healing. Guess where that comes from. Working your 180s.
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I'm just sick and tired of being sick and tired.
My mother got sick and tired of hearing how sick and tired of being sick and tired I was.
"Is it smart/normal?" The more appropriate question to ask is whether or not it is helping you move forward to a detached, strong, and confident position. The decision on if and when is in your hands.
M: 8.5 T:10 Me:37 W:34 S:6
Retrouvaille and W moves back- 7/31/15 Piecing - 7/4/15 to present
