Hope is not a Strategy- It looks done

[rich4j]

Squiggy- agree on slowing down.

It hurts like hell that it still baffles me even without a confirmed affair that she is willing to give this all up and move on. But that is what alot of us struggle with here

She keeps pushing me to leave as its confusing to our daughter and not a good situation. REally? You think telling her we are divorcing won't be mindblowing to her too? I realize we both want to move on but she keeps pushing to get me out there door. I have told her no until we have the lawyer stuff aligned

We have a talk tonight at home around finances, dogs, are you getting a job?, the house, i will try not to go with the affiar stuff, etc.....and have our first joint co parenting session tomorrow afternoon. That will be a hard one for me....everytime the Daughter discussion is involved and melt, cry and just feel bad for her. the STBX.....not even a tear....."she is resilient"....hate that word already

Really struggling lately on how real this has gotten but tired and exhausted and almost wish it was over so we could move on. I keep this hope that she will miss me but that is why "hope is not a strategy". Time will tell......