Red. That. Was. AWESOME. Seriously, perfect. So very proud of you!
Now, time to get back to work. This is yet another template for you to follow in your future interactions, what you are striving for. You had an infectious PMA. You were brief, but caring. You had clear boundaries (changing in the bathroom was perfect) with just enough to keep the engine revving (I feel so bad for him only getting to untie the bikini strap!). And you showed a good level of detachment - not throwing yourself at him, doing your own activities independent of him, and letting him manage his own issues. Be THIS every time.
And then the babies... My heart cried out for you when I read your kids' struggles. I remember my son (5 at the time) going through the same kind of thoughts: "Mommy, why do you not want to be in our family?" "Daddy, why are you and mommy not married?" "Daddy, I wish mommy were here with us." "When is mommy going to come home." Many times my son would be struggling and I would tell him "It is mommy's choice, buddy. But we are going to be ok no matter what." We also made our own thing where I would go "S6, Guess what!" "What?" "I love you!" Little things go a long way to support them.
My best advice is to go with what you said and keep giving them support. In front of your WAH, it might be best just to redirect. Sometimes you can redirect. Other times you can't. You'll have to use your best judgment here.
M: 8.5 T:10 Me:37 W:34 S:6
Retrouvaille and W moves back- 7/31/15 Piecing - 7/4/15 to present
