Wife wants to leave but still at home.

[rich4j]

We can't change our past but we can create a better future and believe in ourselves.

Well said Si.....

Its hard to stay on that path for some of us struggling thru all of this. I constantly have had to remind my STBX that hanging our hats on the past will never let us move forward.

She can't move past the past so its a non starter for us to rekindle.

Sounds like you are doing all the right things to keep yourself on track to deal with this tough situation

Keep it up!