Angel, I don't know how I missed your post from January, but I was going to come look for you today when I saw you had posted in Ancaire's thread!

I'm sorry W played games with you over your daughter's birthday. You should document this entire event including the photos and tell your L, because it seems that this was carefully planned to keep you away from the birthday party so she can control the information. If you showed up and paid for a birthday party, she wouldn't be able to tell her family and friends what a deadbeat you are, right?

Something else jumped out at me. You said you would take your daughter to the doc or 'back home'. You don't want W to be able to say in court that 'he can't handle it when kid gets sick, then he dumps her off with me again.' That will also look very odd if you are claiming that W abuses the children - you wouldn't see her place as a safe place for them, right? I know that they are there 90% of the time anyway, but every minute you can have them, keeps them away from the abuse you have described.

Your home is your daughters' home. That is 'home', where they lived until your W took them away to. You are a good father and can take good care of them. Giving birth makes a good mother as much as standing in a garage makes you a car - it's the actions that count.

Best wishes!


M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17