Rock bottom will be when he realizes his words and actions have dug a hole so deep no one can lift him out. Then, he'll try to climb out himself, only to stumble back in.
I'm not in your sitch, Kyrie, and I don't know you as a physical person. All I know is that my addiction made me angry, withdrawn, shameful, and constantly thinking of things (porn) that I shouldn't have been. Women were more objects to me, or at least my brain thought that way many days.
I'm in a different place now. How I interact with people. A few at my old work noticed a difference in me. Calmer. More smiling - when I wasn't stressed with W. It was my coping mechanism, and it is for many guys. It doesn't make it right. Smoking a pack a month is still doing damage to your lungs vs. smoking a pack a day.
M46, EXWW46 M15 T17 D20, S19, D13 M - Addiction since 1998 W EA/PA #1 2013/2014 W EA #2 June 2015... BD 1 Big D talk 9/15 BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15 Served D 1/22/16 Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)