To everyone else- If Julie's H were here we'd work with him. Yes, there are things he could do differently. No, he is not on top of his game. But the language y'all are talking is the language of war.
Labeling him as controlling. Blaming him for the situation being escalated. Getting worked up about the possibility that he is in an affair.
Just want to ask you to reread what I actually wrote. I did not label him as controlling - I said one notion he has, is controlling and unreasonable. It is obvious that children's needs do not consist of a list of specific big ticket items that only need to be purchased a few times. It is their daily needs that need to be met, and her H is acting very irresponsibly towards his family.
He may have feelings towards Julie and towards the idea of a family that make him act that way, but the kids are not to suffer for a grown man's feelings and notions. Sorry, not very sympathetic to his behavior in that respect.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
