I posted on Julie's thread, it's worth a read. Many men feel that the court systems are extremely violating. If it seems like it's about the money, it isn't. It's more like an animal trying desperately to escape a wolf trap.
Anyway, you're doing better and that's the point. You hope H someday realizes the good you've brought into his life. I hope you someday don't need him to realize that. It takes time. You'll get there
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15