surrealism is not my style

[mm2bs]

Cil. I don't have much advice, but I wanted to say that I too could have written that post. Not nearly as eloquently as you did, but everything you wrote resonated very strongly with me. My H will constantly say it's his "fault" that I was unhappy. That I'm a nice person and I shouldn't change, we just can't be together. Like you I would come back with ....it's my responsibility to make myself happy, but H never seemed to hear it. Until I read your post and Zues' response to you I never could understand H's side. I really appreciate what you wrote Zues...it really does make so much more sense now. I wish I could have heard H when he said it.