my wife requests space, deattached from me

[WillDo]

That is tough brutus3. Amazing how people behave. Emotions are really strong.

I got feedback on this forum. Consulted my old IC for a short period. I brought together courage and spoke up to my wife just before bedttime about 5 mins ago.

I brought up the OM. Rather than me to move out, said that she needed to end the affair to restore our relation. She is strong minded. She denied an affair but said that OM's words were more reassuring than mine when issues arose and said the OM was an outcome of neglect on my part. I acknowledged that and said I drew a line and apologized.

She said that she was expecting me to move out. I told that I don't feel it that way. I said I am not dangerous. She said that we needed to be apart for us to think. I said that's why I am Ok to be in another room efen though it feels like the mental ward. She brought up grievence from the past esecially during my episodes. She says I wasnt around when the kids where 0 to 3. I accepted but added that I was pushed out. She does appreciate my latest changes. She had told it to friends how much helpful I am.

Ended up on a note where counselling may be an option. She asked how I would no if she stopped the relationship with OM. I said you would show me.

I kept my ground. Avoided tear but felt [censored]. In the past, she felt humiliated by my ignorance and my mim's attitude.

So many things. There was no shouting. She was sleeping better. She complsinned about my occasional touches. I had started the conversation saying I felt sad thst she wasn'tbwith me downstairs and we needed dialogue.

I still feel bad. At least talked about my feelings.

Thank you.