Thank you Anna, I'd like to think there's hope. Today I was putting mail for her on her dresser and I see a piece of paper with my hand writing in the trash can on top of all the trash. It was a loving note I wrote her 20 years ago that she's kept in her jewelry box. It hurt a lot to see it there.
PigPen, I miss you buddy. I like Brene Brown, I'll check it out. Thank you for your support, it really helps. I'm okay but disappointed that this is what has become of my marriage. I am more detached from her but not liking it. I will carry on and do my best even though if the odds are long.
Hi Di, nice to have you over, thanks for your support. I am trying to look on the bright side. It works for the most part although every now and then it gets challenging.
SciDad, I am just a man. I am approachable, feel free to jump right in and offer a suggestion. Right now the only formal GAL activity is welding. I am building myself a grow box cabinet. I normally work on it all weekend. I didn't this weekend because I have to paint the different components and it would stink up the house so I'm doing it at work. I should have most of it done for next weekend. This is a dead time of year for me, the winter is only time I don't have a lot to do. I have to get this cabinet done soon, come spring I'll be busy as long as I can stand. Giving my wife space is a good suggestion. She has her space and I respect it. I like being home with the kids. My son said to my wife Sunday afternoon "Mom, I didn't see you all weekend". She goes into the den and shuts the door which she said indicates she wants to be left alone. Please drop by anytime.
Thanks Fo. I took a very nice photo of my wife's face last March. For last Mothers Day I built three beautiful 5x7 Cherry frames with Oak backer boards instead of cardboard. One for my MIL, one for my SIL and one for me. I wood burned personal messages in the Oak on the backside for all three. My MIL and SIL were both very happy with the gifts. I hung mine up downstairs with other family photos. One day soon after I hung it up, I see it's down and find it in a drawer. I ask her if she put it there and she said yes she did. She said she didn't want to have to look at a picture of her face. I think it may have been what I engraved on the back. I wrote "Wife's Name, a beautiful mother and wife Tu es pour moi la plus belle". "Tu es pour moi la plus belle" is French. It translates to mean "You are to me the most beautiful". I now have the framed photo in my underwear drawer because she doesn't want to see her face. Question, was the message to much? Was I wrong to tell her how I feel? I spoke from the heart and truly believe she is the most beautiful. I just don't see what was wrong.
