Sandi can you elaborate a little more about WW's being nice as manipulation and LBH's being a soft target. I am in a similar circumstance as Gr8t and suddenly my WW is being nice as in calling and chatting over the weekend or just send me a text about her day this weekend. I viewed it as hope. I was also worried it just maybe excitement about her upcoming move. Thanks
Well, another term might be "to butter up". I don't believe a WW will suddenly start treating the LBH nicely without an ulterior motive, b/c that is the nature of a WW. Everything is about her. Selfishness drives her. She knows you better than anyone. She knows what makes you tick, what turns you on, etc. She also knows what to do to get you to do what she wants. Women have been doing it forever.
As long as she's wayward, the H needs to be cautious about seeing it as "hope" whenever she suddenly acts nice to him, b/c sooner or later she's going to hit him with whatever it is she wants from him. Some guys never catch on to what she's doing, and some do.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
