You handled your situation very well. I don't blame you, I wouldn't want to continue to rehash stuff over and over again.

Again, he's making excuses for why he's walked. I don't blame you. I wouldn't have applied for a job in a new state until I knew all of the particulars. Again, it's an excuse. Tomorrow it could be the sky is pink.

As for your BIL, I agree...why reward bad behavior. As for the guns, you can see what his priority is right now and it's not ensuring that the boys and you have $$$ for the things you need.

So, over all, it went better than expected. I'm very proud of the way you handled yourself. Keep up the good work!

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.